A monster at work
Don’t be scared I won’t bite you. I
don’t know why I even choose this title. I am kidding I think it is me I am a monster at work.
Anyway,
from the title I am hoping you will get what I am about to tell you.
Growing up I was really kind, and
easy going person. I would probably forgive you if you stabbed my back and then
said sorry. I thought all
people were nice all of them were kind, I was wrong.
If you knew me years ago you would probably
say oh that Alyaa she was so nice! So kind so quiet. Strangers would
say "I think she is a nice person"
BUT and this is a big but, I am not so kind anymore.
This whole thing started after few
years since I started working. Sometimes I think it is a good thing sometimes not.
Fact: people are rude and
mean. If you keep being nice to them they will eat you alive. You won't survive.
It all started
when this Lady in this meeting said to me “why are you smiling with that guy”
and she hinted that we were in “relationship" or something. It was in a meeting
in front of people!!. So to my surprise I only replied with “not your business” and good thing he did not understand Arabic and did not understand a single word she said. It would have been awkward.
(he might end up reading this so if you do let me know :P )
I was so mad cuze I did not reply with more and went and cried outside as I was frustrated but did not say a thing to her face more than that.
That was
the last time I cried at work. I sent an official email to her CC’d my boss
saying that what she said was unacceptable and should not happen again. Not going
to bore you with details but we exchanged few emails I was so professional but
on point, she was not. Also my boss finally replied to one of her emails defending me and saying it was not acceptable.
Anyway guess what, she did not dare to say or throw
words like she used to at me! She was careful of what she says. And I don’t
see her anymore so that is good.
Fact: Some of my coworkers actually ask my
advice when they want to reply to some emails cuze I can be mean and point out
things but in a professional way xD
I heard things people said behind my back that was wrong and made me realize people would never be satisfied with you they will look for anything to talk about. No matter what you do there is something for them to talk about while drinking their morning karak.
After a while, I
became a little bit rude to people around me. I would not just shut up when I
see something I don’t like. Sometimes I reply to things quickly and
regret it later specially if it was to my coworkers and I end up apologizing.
Seriously it is basically like bullying, if you say nothing to those people they will keep treating you the same. So I learned to fight back for my rights I do it for myself.
I gave up trying being nice at work.
Now ask the new employees at work
about me they will say “Alyaa probably hates me” why because I am always
professional not friendly with new people. I don’t have to like them all and
they don’t have to like me. This is work not friendship zone. To some, it is even more like a war zone!
So ya I learned from work a lot on
how to be tough how to not be fooled by people how to not care about what they
think personally of me. I made few friends from work and I love them. But some
people are just coworkers to me and I respect them. Do that and you will never be frustrated at
work. Unless you do your damn job and never get appreciated.
Also some of the people who said that
I was rude or hate them when they first met me, they will probably tell you I
am a nice person after few months (if they are nice to me obviously and not the
gossiping two faced creatures)
Fact: I met a friend from highschool and told her stories that happened to me at work and how I dealt with them and she was shocked! she said you are a whole different person now. Guess what, she also changed from this quiet nice person to this tough reasonable person and we laughed about it.
Okay probably not a monster but hopefully you got the idea.
